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A platform dedicated to relational intelligence & creating conscious love (and meeting more people who want to relate in the same way)

This is the framework of conscious love, that Alchemy is based on (we use it to help you grow and meet the right people - more on this later)

On this page I’m going to introduce you to Alchemy and give you your choice of a free course - pick one, create an Alchemy account, and start creating better connections.

(Not interested in our mission? No worries, you can also just skip right to the courses)

We Were Never Taught How to Love Consciously

Our culture taught us to desire chemistry. To desire attraction.
We were sold a fantasy. We were taught to “find the one" and live happily ever after. 
But no one taught us:


~ How to communicate when emotions are high

~ How to regulate ourselves when you feel rejected

~ How to repair after conflict

~ How to understand compatibility beyond attraction

~ How to build emotional safety

~ How to grow together instead of apart

~ How to express compassion instead of fight for attention


And so most people repeat the same relationship patterns —
with different faces. And maybe even give up on it all together.

The price? A massive pandemic of anxiety and depression. 


Not because people are broken.


But because they never developed relational intelligence.
Nobody teaches this stuff in schools (unfortunately).

Without Relational Intelligence, Relationships Slowly Erode

Here's What Happens:

~ Conversations turn into defensiveness.
~ Misunderstandings turn into distance.
~ Chemistry fades into confusion.
~ Love gets buried under resentment.
~ Fear creates defensiveness that makes you retreat into safety or cling and lose yourself.


You may:


~ Replay arguments in your head

~ Feel unseen or unheard

~ Struggle to express what you really need

~ Fear rejection or abandonment

~ Shut down when things get intense

~ Attract the same dynamic again and again

~ Feel lonely even inside a relationship

~ Feel utterly confused about what you are 'supposed' to do


It doesn't have to be this way. It's NOT just 'How it is...'

And relational intelligence doesn't just affect romance.


It affects:

Family relationships, friendships, parenting, work environments, career advancement, leadership, collaboration, confidence...
Because relational intelligence isn't just a romantic skill.

It is a life skill.

When it’s missing, every area of life feels heavier.

Why Alchemy Exists

Human Beings Are Wired for Connection:
Without It, Part of Us Dies

...And connection follows principles.


When you improve your relational intelligence, you change:


~ How you interpret behavior - you have more patience and compassion. ~ How you respond under stress - you can slow down instead of isolate.~ How you repair conflict - your ego doesn't always take over.~ How you choose partners - you understand how to compliment chemistry with compatibility~ How you collaborate - you understand how to compromise without feeling like you're giving up a part of yourself~ How safe people feel around you - you learn to be a solid grounding and nourishing force


This isn’t manipulation.

It’s awareness.


It’s emotional regulation.

It’s self mastery.


When you develop these capacities, relationships improve — dramatically.


Because the problem was never love and care.

The problem was skill, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence

The Four Elements of Conscious Love

1. Conscious Communication

~ How to speak without blame~ How to listen without defensiveness~ How to repair after conflict~ How to navigate difficult conversations~ How to express needs clearly~ How to reduce escalation


This alone transforms marriages, friendships, families, and workplaces.

2. Emotional Intelligence

~ Understanding your emotional triggers

~ Regulating anxiety, jealousy, shame, and defensiveness

~ Identifying unmet needs and providing them

~ Developing empathy without losing yourself

~ Increasing emotional safety for yourself and others


Emotional intelligence is the foundation of relational intelligence.

3. Self-Awareness

~ Attachment patterns (anxious or avoidant)

~ Projection and shadow work to feel more whole

~ Unconscious attraction dynamics - overcoming your 'type'

~ Archetypes and spirituality - understanding who you are

~ Recognizing your conditioning - freeing yourself from where you came from


You cannot build conscious relationships without knowing yourself.

4. Chemistry & Compatibility

~ The difference between attraction, compatibility, and love

~ Understanding the 70/30 rule of Compatibility in love

~ The Five Elements of Compatibility - love languages, attachment styles, communication types, practical compatibility, and shared purpose and values

~ Long-term vs. short-term alignment - how to embrace both

~ Building sustainable intimacy through conscious intimacy and sexuality

~ Consciously choosing your relationship style and being honest and open about it - embracing modern relationship styles


Chemistry starts relationships. Compatibility paves the way. Conscious love requires both

Our Parents & Grandparents: 

~ ‘Pushed through’ and sacrificed, even when deeply unhappy

~ Stayed together for stability, survival, or social pressure

~ Believed roles were fixed — provider, nurturer, authority

~ Rarely spoke openly about emotional needs

~ Avoided conflict or endured it silently

~ Thought suffering was normal in a long-term partnership

~ Said, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll work.”

~ Assumed marriage itself would guarantee security


So we inherited a model where love was something you endured,
not something you learned and enjoyed.
Without new skills, that same loop gets repeated for decades — in marriage, dating, friendships, family dynamics, and even at work.

Our Generation Lives in a Completely Different World

Relationship styles are evolving

People are choosing later commitments, different structures, blended families, community living, and partnerships built around growth — not rigid roles.


In this modern world, you can’t rely on tradition, pressure, or endurance to carry you.


~ You need skills.

~ You need relational intelligence.


Love is a skill.
Connection is a practice.


And this isn’t just about improving your romantic life.

It’s about learning how to create relationships that actually fit modern life — while staying grounded in honesty, emotional safety, and authentic intimacy.


It’s also about:

 

~ Raising children who are allowed to be themselves

~ Creating emotionally intelligent workplaces~Building conscious communities and slowly reshaping culture toward more empathy, accountability, and connection (even in politics!).


That’s what Alchemy is about. It's the movement we're helping to build.

When You Become Part of Alchemy You Gain Access to Two Core Spaces:

Alchemy: Grow (paid) 

Our education and transformation platform where you develop Conscious Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Awareness, and your understanding of Chemistry & Compatibility. This section includes paid courses, practices, therapies and live events (you'll choose your free course in just a minute, I promise).

Alchemy: Connect (free!)

 Our free dating and relational networking space based on the science of compatibility - where you can practice what you learn, meet like‑minded people around the world, and build friendships, partnerships, collaborations, and conscious community. Connect will always be free - all filters, messaging, seeing who wants to connect with you - you'll never find a paywall here!

Together, Grow and Connect create an ecosystem — not just content, but real-life integration

Your first step is simple: choose your free course from the list below, then create your Alchemy account (with or without creating a public profile - it's optional).

Each course is designed to be digestible and easy to complete with 30–40 minutes a week, with space to apply what you learn in real life throughout the week.


We're also offering an opportunity to become a founding member of Alchemy and help fuel our growth. More on this below. 

The Alchemy App

The Compatibility Blueprint

Choose One of Our Courses to Get Started:

21 Days to Healing Avoident Attachment

~ Spot avoidant triggers (shutdown, distancing) in real time
~ Calm your nervous system so closeness feels safer
~ Stay emotionally present without losing independence
~ Practice vulnerability in small, non-overwhelming steps
~ Build trust through consistent connection (not intensity)
~ Communicate needs and boundaries without disappearing


Soften your armor and build steady intimacy—without feeling trapped.

21 Days to Healing Anxious Attachment

~ Recognize anxious attachment patterns before they spiral
~ Ground your body when you feel activated or panicky
~ Self-soothe without needing immediate reassurance
~ Release fear of abandonment and rejection stories
~ Build self-trust so you don’t lose yourself in love
~ Ask for connection clearly without protest behaviors


Create the inner safety you need—so love feels safe, not urgent.

The Compatibility Blueprint

~ Identify your elemental compatibility: Fire, Water, Earth, Air, Spirit
~ Understand love language alignment and mismatch (Fire)
~ See attachment dynamics and bonding needs clearly (Water)
~ Clarify lifestyle, time, space, and daily rhythm fit (Earth)
~ Strengthen communication and mental connection patterns (Air)
~ Align values, purpose, and long-term direction (Spirit)


Build a clear map for secure, alive, meaningful love.

Conscious Communication Made Easy

~ Listen with empathy instead of preparing your defense
~ Speak without blame, criticism, or emotional escalation
~ Turn conflict into deeper understanding and intimacy
~ Express needs and boundaries clearly and respectfully
~ Separate thoughts from feelings so you communicate cleanly
~ Use love languages to build safety and calm emotions


This course builds the foundation for genuine connection anywhere.

Emotional Intelligence 101

~ Recognize emotions early before they hijack your behavior
~ Decode the story beneath feelings with a simple framework
~ Use guided self-hypnosis-style visualizations to shift conditioning
~ Shift your state in real time with repeatable tools
~ Move through grief, anger, sadness, and helplessness safely
~ Build emotional resilience so you recover faster after triggers and stress


Emotional practice for real life—clear, compassionate, and usable now.

21 Days to Understand Men: A Journey for Women

~ Understand common male nervous system patterns
~ Hear what’s underneath silence and “fixing”
~ Respond with warmth without self-abandoning
~ Build trust through regulation and appreciation
~ Navigate common masculine–feminine friction points
~ Integrate your inner masculine (animus) with clarity


Develop empathy for men—without stereotypes or self-betrayal.

21 Days to Understand Women: A Journey for Men

~ Understand feminine rhythm, intuition, and feeling
~ Listen with empathy instead of trying to “fix”
~ Respond with steadiness and emotional nuance
~ Hold space for shifting moods without losing grounding
~ Turn frustration into fascination and connection
~ Integrate your inner feminine (anima) with depth


Relate to women with empathy—without stereotypes or confusion.

21 Days of Heart–Root Integration

How to speak without blameHow to listen without defensivenessHow to repair after conflictHow to navigate difficult conversationsHow to express needs clearlyHow to reduce escalation


This alone transforms marriages, friendships, families, and workplaces.

21 Days of Body Confidence

~ Blend emotional intimacy with sexual energy
~ Use guided meditations to unify heart and body
~ Journal to heal shame, fear, and guardedness
~ Practice rituals that deepen trust and presence
~ Transform desire into devotion and tenderness
~ Cultivate sacred sexuality with spiritual awareness


Make intimacy feel grounded, connected, and profoundly alive.

The Celestial Archetypes Journey

~ Embody the strengths of all 12 zodiac archetypes (not just your sign)
~ Use guided meditations to access courage, calm, clarity, and confidence
~ Balance your inner world by integrating the full zodiac spectrum
~ Reclaim power through deep energetic work
~ Align purpose, discipline, and vision to create real-life momentum
~ Awaken intuition and connection through higher-awareness practices


A full-zodiac journey for power, peace, and self-expansion.

Reclaiming the Lost Pieces of Yourself

~ Learn the psychology and spirituality of “soul retrieval”
~ Use 3 powerful pre-recorded guided practices for integration
~ Ground and stabilize with a body awareness meditation
~ Build safety through somatic presence and receptivity
~ Use regression to reclaim lost parts of yourself
~ Reconnect with purpose, peace, and inner unity


Return to yourself - more whole, more present, and at peace.

BONUS MATERIAL (available only during our launch)

Whichever course you choose, we also want you to have these pivital books to help you create conscious relationships in your life!

Understanding Your Attachment Patterns

~ Identify your attachment lean with a clear self-assessment
~ Understand anxious and avoidant patterns without shame or blame
~ Learn what secure attachment looks like in real life
~ Use simple tools to calm your body and stop spirals before they escalate
~ Apply practical remedies for anxious/avoidant thoughts & triggers
~ Follow guided practices and a healing path to build steadier love
A practical guide to making love feel safer, calmer, and more secure.

The Conscious Relationship Manifesto

~ Treat love as a practice of honesty, kindness, boundaries, and repair
~ Build a relationship with yourself as the foundation of everything
~ Date with clarity—values, pacing, compatibility—not just chemistry
~ Create conscious agreements around, sex, money, time, and conflict
~ Learn how to separate or uncouple with dignity, care, and integrity
~ Use reflection prompts to turn insight into real-life action


A living compass for building love that feels peaceful, free, and real.

FAQ's

Why do people avoid this kind of work if it matters so much? 

Most people assume it requires a huge time commitment. Others have been taught that “love should be effortless,” or they worry that learning skills means something is wrong. And for many, change asks for humility — and the ego would rather stay right than grow.

Will it feel like homework or make my relationship feel less romantic?

Skills don’t replace love — they protect it. When you practice a little each week, conversations get easier, repair happens faster, intimacy becomes safer, and the relationship starts to feel more romantic because you feel safe and are no longer stuck in the same loops.

Is this therapy?

No. This is educational and transformational. It builds skills. You can use it alongside therapy — or as preventative relational education.

What if my partner isn’t doing it with me?

One regulated nervous system can shift an entire dynamic. Improving your relational intelligence can change the system and inspire your partner.

What if I’m too busy to do relationship work?

You don’t need to overhaul your life. Set aside 30 minutes a week — that’s it. You can move at your own pace and still build real momentum.

Is this only for couples?

No. Relational intelligence improves romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, dating confidence, workplace collaboration, leadership, and career growth. If you're single, building relational intelligence will change who you attract.

About the Founder of Alchemy

Aaran Solh has devoted his life to answering the question, “What is love?”—studying the human spirit, the mind, and ancient cultures alongside modern academic approaches. A prolific author and video creator, Aaran has facilitated life-transforming workshops and classes on relationship, consciousness, and personal growth.
 

Aaran is a relationship coach for individuals and couples. He is also a regression therapist, meditation and mindfulness teacher, ordained priest in a lesser-known Western Mystery tradition, Reiki Master, energy healer, massage therapist, philosopher, Deeksha Blessing giver, intuitive, and detoxification coach. He holds an undergraduate degree with an emphasis in psychology and chemical dependency counseling.
 

Most importantly, he has brought real-life transformation and positivity to thousands through his books, classes, workshops, and counseling.

Aaran loves this quote from Abraham Hicks:

“I want everyone to feel SO good that they never feel like picking up guns and killing each other”

When you build these skills, love stops feeling like luck — and starts feeling like something you can create.

~ You learn how to make connection safe.
~ How to speak honestly without wounding.
~How to repair quickly.
~ How to stay close without losing yourself.
~ How to turn conflict into understanding instead of damage.


And the impact goes way beyond your relationship.


~ Conscious love between two people changes a home.
~ A healed home changes a community.
~ Communities shape the culture inside companies — how people lead, collaborate, and care.
~ And over time, a culture that knows how to listen, regulate, and repair becomes a culture that votes, governs, and builds systems with more wisdom and less fear.


This is the ripple:

~ Two people feel safe to be real.
~ Children learn security instead of survival.
~ Friendships deepen into true support.
~ Workplaces become more human.
~ Communities become more resilient.
~ Even politics becomes less about outrage and more about solutions.

 

This is what you’re stepping into: a new way of love that doesn’t just improve your relationships — it helps heal the world you live in.

 

Legal Note


These programs are for educational purposes only. They are not a substitute for therapy, medical advice, psychological treatment, or legal counsel. If you are experiencing abuse, severe relationship distress, or a mental health crisis, please seek support from a licensed professional in your area.


Results will vary based on your level of practice, participation, and willingness to apply the skills. No specific outcomes are guaranteed — although many people experience meaningful improvements when they consistently implement the tools.


This page and program are not affiliated with, endorsed by, or sponsored by Facebook, Meta, or any other platform.


In short: these are powerful communication skills — but you still have to use them. And when you do, they tend to work beautifully.